19.2.10

Open-Mindedness

I'm taking a humanities/environmental studies class on Culture and Nature this semester. I love this class! It really opens your mind to new things and you are able to think more critically about everyday things. Anyhow, my awesome professor always gives us extra "FYI" pieces on our online discussion board. Last night he sent us this video about open-mindedness. Although this deals with the open-mindedness with the supernatural, his explanation is so good, it can be applied in other situations as well.

Please take a look at this video. I hope maybe you will be learn about yourself and be more conscious about what you do or say when placed in situations typical to this.

Why Aren't You With Someone?

Everywhere I go, all I hear are people talking about coupling up and wanting a significant other in their life. Then they always turn to me and ask "why are you not dating or with someone?" Grrr it annoys me. After being asked that like hella times, you would be to.
Let me tell you some of the most common things people tell me when I say I'm not interested in dating right now:
  1. You must've gotten your heartbroken
  2. You're never going to find love
  3. You're going to be lonely for the rest of your life
  4. You'll never be happy
I think people fail to realize that I AM NOT LIKE THEM
We are all in different stages in our life. We all have different priorities. Just because I don't care to be in a relationship right now does not mean I am doomed to be single for the rest of my life (that's not a bad thing either) and without any companionship. And who says I have to get married?!

Let me put it out there:

I haven't been heartbroken before because I've never been in love before. A little bruising, for sure, but I think it was mainly my ego that got hurt. I got over these little bumps in the road. Its nothing. The failed relationships with guys have not made me give up on all men. I'm sure there are good guys out there, but I just don't want ANY guy right now ;)

Also, the whole thing about me being lonely and never falling in love is ridiculous. People have it in their heads that if they're not with someone when they reach a certain age, they're destined to be "old spinsters" or "bachelors for life" I am not in a hurry to find someone and settle down. I have full confidence in nature that I will eventually find my soul mate. I am certain in fate and destiny that I do not feel the need to "search" for love; love will find me. It may not come now, but it will when I am ready, free, and able to give my heart to someone. "Good things come to those who wait" right? Right!{FYI...my friend told me some dude said this about me when she told him he didn't have a chance with me. Can someone say, hatin-ass, bitter fool? ^_^ hehehe I laughed when I heard this. It just shows you how one is so quick to knock down a person just because they weren't accepted by them. GROW UP. A real man would've just accepted the fact that I'm not interested and continued on with his day/life/whatever}.

The idea that I will not be happy if I am not with someone makes me wanna shake everyone who says that to me! >( I believe that happiness first starts with yourself.  Relationships contribute to your already existing happiness (totally sounds stupid but bare with me hehe). I don't depend on a man to bring joy into my life. My happiness does not lie in the hands of the opposite sex. I am content with who I am, what I do, my accomplishments, and the people already in my life. I enjoy myself as a single gal and as a taken gal; I am happy in every state.

My main concerns right now are my education, my work, my family/friends & myself. I don't have extra time to give to anyone else at this chapter in my life; call me selfish. I don't see that fitting with my life right now. I have things that I want to accomplish first and I don't want to feel like someone is holding me back. Then there will be feelings of resentment if I hold off on my life for this person. I don't want to resent anyone. I don't want to worry or  take into consideration another persons feelings right now. Its unfair to them  and unfair to myself.

Bottom line: although I have the capacity to be a dope ass gf, I just can't offer that to anyone right now because I have other priorities. Its better I stay single to focus on myself and my goals in life. Perhaps in the future I will settle down and fall in love with my soul mate. Real love will come when it is right; no worries here ^_^


18.2.10

Friendship Poetry

I found another one that totally screams "me" hehe! It basically sums up how I feel about my best friends and how much positivity they bring to my life.

Only You
With you, it's all about
voiceless communication-
always knowing exactly what to say,
but never actually having to say it.

When no one seems to be listening,
you hear.
When I hurt but don't show it,
you know.
When I turn away to hide my tears,
you see.
When I feel like I can't get through to anyone,
you understand.

Your eyes glow just for me,
and I know you're proud.
You flash your magical, healing smile my way,
and I know everything will be all right.

You know everything there is to know about me.
You know what worries me,
what keeps me up at night,
and what shames me so badly
that I can't share it with anyone.
Most importantly, though,
none of those things bother you.

You've restored my faith in people
and proved that there is a thing
called true friendship.

Poetry

I found a website w/ a top100 list of friendship poems...one of the ones that I rather liked was Piano by Lynn Smiley...
Piano
My soul is the piano, his words are the keys.
Together we compose, the best of symphonies.

How my soul replays his words of the day.
Like a composer writing a play.

I hear the music, as he strikes a key.
an orchestra, is what I see.

Two soul that share a common ground.
a friendship they have found.

What is a piano, without the player.
It's like a soul, without a desire.

It sits alone in the dark,
waiting for someone to light a spark.

A hope or a desire,
waiting for someone to inspire.

To play a song of the heart,
a song of two souls that will never depart. 

In this poem, Smiley is using a piano to symbolize the deep friendship that she has with her best friend. They go hand in hand and compliment one another.

5.2.10

Quote of the Day

We must treasure the achievers of our land because it's they who raise the sights of all the others.
--Unknown Source

Sometimes I just feel like we don't give enough credit to the people who deserve it. Sometimes achievements go unnoticed or others talk down on them. Be conscious. Praise is always needed every once in a while to assure a person that they are doing good and to keep going and striving for more. Without them, we wouldn't be the modern people that we are now. They are our innovators, they are society's light.

Travel Destination : Ibiza

 

 I have such a big love for the world, the unknown, adventure, and travel. The world is my candy store and I want to try them all out. I think I will start posting more frequently locations that I so badly want to visit.

One place that excites me is Ibiza. It is a dream of mine to visit Ibiza in the summer. I hope to visit within the next 2-4 years. We'll see what happens ;)

Ibiza is 79 km off the coast of Valencia, Spain in the Mediterranean Sea, and is part of the Balearic Islands (Mallorca, Menorca, Ibiza, & Formentera). Ibiza is the third largest of the four islands that make up the Balearic Islands. The climate doesn't drastically change during seasons. Ibiza has hot summer nights and not so cold winters. 
Month Highs °C / °F Lows °C / °F
January 13 / 55 4 / 39
February 14 / 57 5 / 41
March 16 / 60 8 / 46
April 17 / 62 9 / 48
May 20 / 68 13 / 55
June 24 / 75 16 / 60
July 27 / 80 19 / 66
August 28 / 82 19 / 66
September 26 / 79 18 / 64
October 21 / 70 13 / 55
November 17 / 62 8 / 46
December 14 / 57 7 / 44

In the 1950's Ibiza began to thrive in art culture, and in the 1960's it was made popular by "flower-children".

The main languages spoken there are Spanish and Catalan. Tourists need not to worry because they also speak English, German and Russian, due to the massive influx of tourists coming from England, France, Germany, and Scandinavia. 

There is much that one can do to enjoy themselves in Ibiza. There are various nightclubs, bars, and casinos that one can go to. It is said that Ibiza gets filled with visitors at the start of June. Nightclubs "Space" and "DC10" usually kick-off the summer with large scale events. World renowned DJ's have spun at the nightclubs in Ibiza, including my ever so beloved Tiesto ;). 
 
During the day one can participate in water sports in the warm waters of Ibiza. They have parasailing, surfing, wind surfing, waterskiing, sailing, and etc. If water sports are not really your thing, there's always horseback riding or you can take a tour around the historic Ibiza. Festivals are always an option as well.

In the summer, Es Cana Hippy Market is open to shop and buy souvenirs. It was started in the 60's to draw more hippies in. Year round, Las Dalias Hippy Market is open for locals and tourists to spend their dollars there. Las Dalias Hippy Market get's really crowded.

As you can see there are lots of things you can do in Ibiza. I'm more drawn towards the natural beauty of the island and incredible nightlife. 
For further information check out:
http://www.frommers.com/destinations/ibiza/0159010001.html
http://www.whatibiza.com/ibiza-guide.html